48 years: It Gets Better

When I was a teenager who knew everything, adults who seemed ancient to me at age 55 or 60 kept talking about how tough marriage was. When I knew everything, I wondered why these people stayed married then. After all – if it’s so hard, just make it easy and don’t stay married. Go get a life that’s easy. That’s what I thought when I knew everything. After 48 years of marriage, and now well over the age of 60 myself, I still don’t know everything. But there are a …

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What if you didn't marry your best friend?

Once upon a time there were two kids who got married on a beautiful, snowy day in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula. I’m sure parents, family, and friends thought they were witnessing a wedding then that would turn into divorce before anniversary number one. Well, that didn’t happen as you can see, because here we are celebrating year 45 on January 16, 2016, and I do mean celebrating. I’d like to say it’s been a picnic in the park, and I guess it has been if you count the charcoal that won’t …

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What God has joined . . .

Open letter to my precious, loving husband. Today we celebrate 43 years of life together. I can’t imagine life without you. “For better – we’ve had better; for worse – we’ve had worse” and that’s how to live the storybook life. The first years were like being in a canoe – paddle one side, then the other – not often synchronized, even a few capsized moments, but still managed to stay afloat. We progressed to speedboat status working at jobs, working on house repairs, working on relationship repairs, raising 3 …

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Refining Grace